Dec 5, 2007

A Beautiful Wedding and on a Budget

Here's a great article on wedding planning and wedding costs from weddingbee.com: It always helps to know what other people are doing when planning your wedding. Some Jewish wedding are significantly larger and thus may easily double the price tag.
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Robyn’s $14,000 Real Wedding Budget

Today we bring you Robyn’s small town lodge wedding. She cut costs by having family members contribute services, skipping favors, and having a Sunday wedding. This way Robyn was able to pull together a lovely, warm affair for 70 guests for under $15,000.

Date: September 2, 2007
City: small town 70 miles north of Seattle, WA
Budget: ~$14,000
# of Guests: 70

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Ceremony/Reception Site: $1795. Our venue was a private lodge on 70 acres, with beautifully manicured gardens and a large pond in the center of the property. The ceremony and reception both took place outdoors. Included in the price were all tables and chairs as well as 3 separate rooms for getting ready and a gourmet kitchen used by our caterers. Because we chose to get married on a Sunday (the Sunday of Labor Day weekend), the regular fee for the venue was reduced by $200.

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Caterer/Food/Drink (per person if available): $5850 or ~$78/person (this number takes into account feeding our DJ, photographer, and day-of coordinator as well as all 70 guests and the bride and groom). Ravishing Radish did our catering and they were wonderful. Catering was one of the expenses we didn’t want to skimp on. For $5200 the food total included tray-passed hors d’oeuvres, an 8 item buffet, pre-set tables, coffee, all linens, plateware, silverware, glassware, delivery fees for rentals, and floral arrangements for the buffet tables. We provided beer, wine, champagne, water, and iced tea for a total of an additional $650.

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Service Charge/Gratuities: The above food total includes 18% gratuity and all service charges for 1 event manager, 2 servers, 1 kitchen staff, and 1 bartender. The above is also inclusive of all sales tax.

Bridal Gown & Alterations: I purchased my dress at Nordstrom.com for around $450. It is by BCBG. The gown did not require any alterations. I thought I might eventually regret my decision to buy such a simple, inexpensive dress, but I didn’t. It is totally me and I still had the opportunity to dress it up by adding fun accessories like a poofy pink sash and animal print heels.

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Bridal Accessories (Veil, Undergarments, Shoes, Jewelry): I purchased a pink silk sash from Saeyoung Vu in New York during their February sale for $45. My Kate Spade shoes were purchased from smartbargains.com for $120. I wore diamond earrings given to me by my parents for a birthday. My bracelet was $25 at Macy’s. I made a Grecian-inspired headband using a plain silver faux-leather headband from Old Navy for $4 and an elaborate trim costing around $20 for 18 inches. My veil was ordered at a heavy discount online for $20.

Groom’s Attire: After trying on countless suits from Hickey Freeman to Hugo Boss, we ended up going with the best-fitting suit, which also happened to be the most reasonably priced! My husband’s suit was $280 from H&M. His shirt, shoes, and tie came to around $150.

Stationery/Postage: $477. Includes DIY STD and thank you card materials, invitations, and postage (for STDs, invites, and thank you cards). Fifty invitations were custom designed by mmmPaper of Seattle for around $250.

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Photography: $1800. Our photographer, Ron Wurzer Photography, despite working as a photojournalist for many years, is relatively new to wedding photography. His prices are very reasonable, but you’d never know it looking at his work. The $1800 included 6 hours of shooting, a CD of all images, and 150 4×6 prints (a custom package). Ron ended up being our favorite vendor not only because of his brilliant and beautiful work but also for his laid-back, friendly personality that put everyone at ease.

Videography: n/a. I regret not hiring a videographer. We should have at least asked a friend with a camera to set up a tripod and film the ceremony.

Ceremony/Reception Music: $710, which included a $60 tip. Our DJ, Emerald Forest Productions, is local to the area in which we got married. His services included 6 hours of music plus set-up and break-down, extra speakers for the outdoor ceremony which took place in a different location than the reception, a wireless microphone, and his entire music library. We chose this company because they didn’t charge us a travel fee and were familiar with our venue. He did a great job band kept the dance floor packed.

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Flowers: $400 (wholesale price). My mother offered to pay for our flowers but I’m including it in our total. This covered enough flowers for 11 centerpieces, cake flowers, 2 bridesmaids bouquets, my bouquet, 2 sprays for the chuppah, 2 very large accent pieces for the greeting table and cake table, 10+ corsages, 10+ bouts, and flower petals for our flowergirl. My Aunt is a florist and she offered to both use her wholesale license to purchase the flowers and to do all of our arrangements as a wedding gift. I couldn’t have been happier with her creations. We’re still receiving compliments on our flowers!

Cake: $300. My husband is a food blog fan. He worked up the courage to ask a local pastry chef if she would do our cakes and she agreed. We had a very simply decorated white lemon cake with buttercream frosting that served 50+ and a chocolate/rosemary/honey groom’s cake that served another 30+. Both were heavenly and I can’t believe we convinced a very experienced up-and-coming pastry chef to make our cakes!

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Officiant: $0. We asked my husband’s uncle, a very charismatic, funny and intelligent guy to officiate. We signed him up for online ordination with the Universal Life Church. He did a fantastic job and made everyone laugh, while making us feel totally comfortable. He’s since been asked to officiate another wedding!

Coordinator: $400, which included a $100 tip. I lucked out on this one. A former knottie advertised her desire to build a portfolio in wedding planning by taking on local clients for a nominal fee. She did an amazing job and it was the best decision we made! I wish her the best of success with her new business!

Hair/Makeup: $50 for new makeup. Otherwise, my hair and makeup were both DIY thanks to my bridesmaids!

Wedding Party Gifts: ~$400. We purchased gifts for our bridesmaids, groomsmen, both sets of parents, our ceremony readers, all individual family members involved in any aspect of the planning day-of (~6 people), our flowergirl (and her brother!). We didn’t purchase gifts for each other.

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Transportation: $200, which included a tip. This was for transportation home in a private town car after the wedding (~70 miles).

Misc: $250 for manis and pedis for me and my 2 bridesmaids (this included a 15% tip). ~$350 for all ceremony and reception decorations, including wallpaper for DIY placemats and napkin rings, glass votives and candles, centerpiece vases, string lights, materials for DIY chuppah, paper materials for DIY escort cards, DIY programs, and DIY table #s, shepherds hooks, floating pond lights, and DIY guestbook table materials.

WEDDING DAY TOTAL: $14,096
COST PER PERSON: $201.37

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Thanks for sharing Robyn!
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As you can see they certainly cut a lot of corners, that you may not be able to do. However, they also spent a reasonable amount on the catering together with the venue. If you have your wedding at a wedding hall this cost may be significantly lower. Also, the price for the photography above does not include a keepsake album which the couple will treasure for the rest of their lives together. Album can cost anywhere between $800 to $3000. Many couples also get albums for their families and even friends. GraphiStudio makes nice albums. Robyn with her CD with images that she received from the photographer can purchase an album herself at alater date.
As you can see for yourself good planning and attention to detail goes a long way.

Breaking Dishes at a Jewish Wedding


"They Just got married - they're breaking dishes already?!" was my thought on the act of Breaking of the Glass that is at the very end of any Jewish wedding ceremony.
'No, it's a symbol' - someone said, 'Everything in a Jewish wedding is symbolic.'

'I see... what could better symbolize marriage than broken glass.'


After asking around some knowledgeable friends of mine as to the nature of this curious symbol, after all how can 'breaking' of anything be a positive sort of symbol, I got a number of answers. The source for this ceremony dates back to Talmudic times, specifically to the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem in 70 C.E. Yes, in fact, it is a symbol of sadness. Based on the verses 5 -7 in
Psalm 135: "If I forget thee, O Jerusalem, let my right hand wither, let my tongue cleave to my palate if I do not remember you, if I do not set Jerusalem above my highest joy", breaking the glass ceremony sets the memory of the destroyed Temple in Jerusalem above even the highest Jewish joy, namely the Jewish wedding.

Some say, that the act of 'Breaking of the Glass' is related to the Kabbalistic concept called 'Breaking of the Vessels' or 'Shvirat HaKeilim' in Hebrew. Here's a partial quote from NewKabballah.com regarding this idea:
According to Luria, the ten vessels that were originally meant to contain the emanation of God's light were unable to contain that light and were hence either displaced or shattered.... The Breaking of the Vessels is, according to the Lurianic Kabbalah, a clearing of the decks, a fresh start...
Why were the 'vessels' unable to withhold the Light of G-d? Because they were unable to unite themselves, to unify their efforts for this most incredible 'job.' So in this sense, 'Breaking the Glass' by the Chuppah symbolizes the new beginning of the couple as a single unit working together to bring G-d's light into the world and the shattering of their old 'single' and self-centered existence.

In other words: If you break the vessels by your wedding (i.e. if you understand that you now begin your life as two units working as one, and you take on to appreciate,to compromise with, and validate one another) then you're on the road to make your marriage a grand success. You'll also save your expensive china - you won't end up breaking dishes later on.

In some Jewish circles, single girls keep the broken shards as a segulah (omen) of getting married soon themselves.

Dec 4, 2007

Badeken - Bride Veiling Ceremony

An Intro to the actual wedding ceremony, namely the Chuppah, is a small but lively ceremony known as the Badeken or the Veiling of the Bride. (Shown in this beautiful photo by Stacy Newgent, Chicago.) A ceremony that may go as far back as Biblical times, is probably the most sensuous moments at a Jewish Wedding.

Dec 1, 2007

Shostakovich and Jewish Wedding Music

One thing Shostakovich was not was Jewish, by birth or belief. Yet from the frenzied klezmer dance melody of the Second Piano Trio (1944) to the mournful vocal cycle From the Jewish Folk Poetry (1948) to the sweeping sorrow of the Holocaust evoked in the Thirteenth Symphony ("Babi Yar") of 1962, Shostakovich carried on a lifelong affair with the sound and soul of Russian Jewry. Why would a non-Jewish composer living in one of the modern world's most bitterly anti-Semitic and repressive societies, where mere possession of Hebrew literature could lead to arrest and imprisonment, choose to make Jewishness a recurrent theme in his work? The answer is tied up with the debate over the man behind the music.

Shostakovich was a Communist Party member and First Secretary of the Soviet Composers' Union, and his signature appeared on a 1973 letter attacking the dissident physicist Andrei Sakharov. Few doubted his tremendous musical talents, but there was little interest in the West for a composer who seemed such an obedient musical apparatchik.

Then came Testimony: The Memoirs of Dmitri Shostakovitch as Related to and Edited by Solomon Volkov, purportedly dictated shortly before the composer's death in 1975. Volkov, a senior editor at Sovetskaya Muzyka, the leading Soviet music journal, brought the manuscript to the United States in 1976 and published in English in 1979. Testimony offered a startling image of the quiet, legendarily taciturn composer as a secret freedom fighter, an anti-Soviet liberal who revealed himself only in these private conversations. Volkov's Shostakovich was boldly courageous and pettily proud, alternately explaining the hidden anti-Soviet political meaning in many of his famous compositions and dismissing former colleagues such as Prokofiev in unflattering, gossipy terms.

The book's convoluted title was the first indication that this was not a standard autobiography. In fact, charges of forgery immediately began to surface among Soviet authorities and Western scholars. Volkov offered as evidence of Shostakovich's approval the composer's signature on the first page of each chapter, certifying that he had read the contents. And in the context of the Cold War and the political movement on behalf of Soviet Jewry, Westerners eagerly embraced the new heroic image of Shostakovich as a secret dissident, making his music a new concert hall favorite and Volkov's book a bestseller.

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Shostakovich with Ivan Sollertinsky

Among the themes to emerge from Testimony was the central place of Jews and Jewishness in Shostakovich's life and creative work. Many of the people closest to Shostakovich were Jews, including his favorite pupil, Venyamin Fleishman, and his best friend, Ivan Sollertinsky. Both men died tragically during World War II, Fleishman as a Red Army soldier and Sollertinsky of illness exacerbated by wartime living conditions. Shostakovich produced musical tributes to each. He completed Fleishman's unfinished opera, Rothschild's Violin (1944), based on a Chekhov short story about a Jewish klezmer musician. Sollertinsky he recalled in the mournful, piercing Second Piano Trio, written as word of the Holocaust was reaching Moscow. The final section of this piece includes a freylekhs, a Jewish wedding tune that seems to link the dead and the living in a desperate, sacred dance of joy and sadness.

These are among a dozen major works in which Shostakovich displayed an intense, sustained interest in the larger symbolic meaning of Jewishness and Jewish music. What was the source of this attraction? Testimony provided one answer:
Jewish folk music has made a most powerful impression on me. I never tire of delighting in it, it's multifaceted, it can appear to be happy while it is tragic. It's almost always laughter through tears. This quality of Jewish folk music is close to my ideas of what music should be... Jews became a symbol for me. All of man's defenselessness was concentrated in them. After the war, I tried to convey that feeling in my music. It was a bad time for Jews then. In fact, it's always a bad time for them.

Solomon Volkov with Shostakovich
Solomon Volkov with Shostakovich

...A substantial portion of his Jewish audience, in Russia and beyond, also continues to claim Shostakovich's music. Vladimir Zak calls Shostakovich's musical language a form of Jewish "biblical romanticism." Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach, the late exponent of American Jewish religious music, spoke of Shostakovich's music as soaked through with "the sorrow of the Jews...crying out together with the Torah." And so Volkov's work, while it may not successfully prove that Shostakovich was a political dissident, does rightly remind us that the great master of modern Russian music was also a great Jewish composer.

James Loeffler is a musicologist and writer based in New York City.
From Nextbook.org

Got Engaeged - let the world know

If you got engaged, before you begin the wedding planning process, you'll probably want to let your friends and family know about your engagement. The quickest way to do that is to post your Simcha on OnlySimchas.com. Here's an article from the Jewish Press about this popular website.


Special: Simcha Factory: The Magic of OnlySimchas.com


February 23, 2006

The question is - how did we ever endure beforehand? Were we always on top of the most recent news in the community? Did it matter that we could go months before seeing photos of a new grandchild in Israel, or learning of a classmate’s engagement in Australia? Nowadays, even a three day yom tov can leave an enthusiast of the site feeling like he or she is out of the loop. It’s all part of the magic of OnlySimchas.com.

OnlySimchas.com is a photo sharing and browsing website for the international Jewish community. Often, it’s an overseas relative who will turn to the site to experience the joy of a new baby to the family. Sometimes, a new couple will return to their own photo gallery just to relive the special moments of their wedding day. But more often OnlySimchas.com has become a destination for Jewish people throughout the world searching for wholesome happy news.

How did the site begin? The legend, as retold by the site’s three founders begins with Dov Katz running a website development company in college. While attending Yossi Markovitz’s engagement party in February of 2000, he took photos with his brand new Sony Mavica and posted them on the web so Yossi’s sister in Israel could view them. Within a few days, other couples were asking Dov to add their images as well. Dr. Doron Katz, who is Dov’s brother-in-law, immediately knew this concept had huge potential in the early stages of the internet. Immediately, the three young entrepreneurs began developing the site’s technology and business operation.

The magic stems from many sources. Since all the content is user uploaded, the site is updated real-time with happenings from around the world. The staff monitors all pictures for suitability and refreshes the homepage at least once a day. The site offers listings of simcha vendors, advertisements for the latest products, and classified posting for real estate, jobs and local events.

Today, the site serves over 20 million pages per month, has over 40,000 posted Simchas, and caters to an international audience from Brooklyn to Bnai Brak, from Antwerp to Sao Paulo and everywhere in between. The trio has transformed a novel idea into a tremendous tool that draws recognition and accolade for its resources and ingenuity.

By now, everyone has a personal OnlySimchas story to tell. Last year, a newlywed couple was honeymooning in London when they accidentally left their wedding proofs in a taxi cab. The resourceful cabbie was able to identify them by “googling” the name of the photographer and celebrant on the internet. Sure enough, the results of the search led him to OnlySimchas.com. With the help of the founding team the proof were returned safely to their very grateful owners. Among their most well-known celebrants was Ari Fleischer, White House press secretary.

Another Bride / Another Groom


Set to open On December 1st, 2007, Another Bride Another Groom is a musical journey on a magic carpet back in time to that Golden Era of the Jewish Wedding bands. A time when you heard wonderful music and you didn't have to put cotton balls in your ears.

Drama, comedy, traditions and stories that were never told all unfold as the wedding progresses. Starts where Fiddler ended. Featuring a live international orchestra!

“Another Bride, Another Groom” is a musical show that recreates a Jewish Wedding, not only with wonderful songs and dance but also with many stories and memories of both happy and sad times. A “simcha” that stimulates your senses and provokes your imagination. You’ll laugh and you’ll cry, but when our magical journey ends, you’ll still be flying high.

A creation of Alan Helzner - this semi-autobiographical tale based on 35 years on the road as a Jewish wedding band leader, will "bring people back to something real."

"This really picks up where 'Fiddler' ended," Mr. Helzner says. "As the wedding in the show progresses, you go through the golden era of wedding music that flourished until it gradually, sadly disappeared. I think it's indicative of something going through the country - children today are pulling away from family and tradition, but I hope 'Another Bride, Another Groom' will open up the possibility of bringing people back to something real."

"Another Bride, Another Groom" opens Dec. 1 at the Raymond and Miriam Klein Branch Jewish Community Center, Polonsky Theater, 10100 Jamison Ave. The show runs through Dec. 9. Tickets are $25. Call 215 947-0409 or visit www.anotherbrideanothergroom.com.

Nov 29, 2007

Evolution of Hava Nagilah

The New York Times



November 27, 2007

The Dance of Evolution, or How Art Got Its Start

If you have ever been to a Jewish wedding, you know that sooner or later the ominous notes of “Hava Nagila” will sound, and you will be expected to dance the hora. And if you don’t really know how to dance the hora, you will nevertheless be compelled to join hands with others, stumble around in a circle, give little kicks and pretend to enjoy yourself, all the while wondering if there’s a word in Yiddish that means “she who stares pathetically at the feet of others because she is still trying to figure out how to dance the hora.”

I am pleased and relieved to report that my flailing days are through. This month, in a freewheeling symposium at the University of Michigan on the evolutionary value of art and why we humans spend so much time at it, a number of the presenters supplemented their standard PowerPoint presentations with hands-on activities. Some members of the audience might have liked folding the origami boxes or scrawling messages on the floor, but for me the high point came when a neurobiologist taught us how to dance the hora. As we stepped together in klezmeric, well-schooled synchrony, I felt free and exhilarated. I felt competent and loved. I felt like calling my mother. I felt, it seems, just as a dancing body should.

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Many people don't know this, but the orthodox wedding dance music has also evolved and songs like Hava Nagilah are never played and are mainly associated with 'Neolithic', i.e. old country, traditional Judaism. Orthodox Jews have their own contemporary musicians whose music they prefer to the things their grandparents were listening to.
The Hora, however, is a dance that is danced at all Jewish weddings, albeit in a more modern, rhythmic kind of form.

A Jewish wedding in Hawaii Makes Headlines



(From Chabad.org)

An unforgettable wedding for the local Jewish community, plus hundreds of guests from around the world, took place this week in Hawaii. In a first for the island state, the Chasidic wedding of Rivky Krasnjansky – daughter of Chabad-Lubavitch of Hawaii co-directors Rabbi Itchel and Pearl Krasnjansky – and Rabbi Avremel Chazanow of New Jersey paired ancient Jewish traditions with tropical flair. Food was flown-in from the mainland while the Krasnjanskys took over a resort hotel’s kitchen.

More than 500 guests helped escort the bride and groom, viewed by Jewish tradition as a king and queen on the day of their wedding.



From the Hawaii Star Bulletin

by Mary Adamski

Couple unites under strict Jewish tenets

Rivky Krasnjansky of Honolulu and Avremel Chazanow of Brooklyn, N.Y., believe that God will be a third partner in their marriage.

Their Wednesday wedding will be an affirmation of faith for the pair, members of the Chabad Lubavitch movement of Orthodox Judaism, which teaches strict adherence to laws laid out more than 3,000 years ago.

For Rivky and Avremel, both 20, being true to that law has meant a courtship with no physical contact, not even a chaste kiss, she said. They're now in a seven-day "no talk" zone, not allowed to compare notes or share the anticipation until they are escorted to stand under a ceremonial canopy called a "chupah." In the old days families could keep their kids sequestered, but in these days of computer and cell phone, that's quite a discipline.

For the parents it's the usual whirlwind of shopping and planning, the logistics of accommodating guests arriving from several countries, topped off by the element of ensuring religious correctness. But who's complaining?

Rabbi Itchel Krasnjansky and his wife, Pearl, who established the Honolulu branch of Chabad 20 years ago, are over the top with excitement at presenting a "full-on Orthodox wedding" for their daughter. They think it might be the first Chasidic wedding in Hawaii.

Chasidic refers to the strict observance of the law in the Torah, which Christians know as the first five books of the Old Testament. The extent to which people observe the requirements for diet, conduct, hygiene as well as religious practice differ in the various branches of Judaism.

Because of the law, the mother of the bride had to buy 500 plates for the wedding banquet because the dinnerware at Ihilani Resort at Ko Olina is not considered kosher. The hotel kitchen is not kosher, so a side kitchen will be set up. Student rabbis will use a blowtorch on the ovens and extreme ritual cleaning to render the kitchen clear of impurities.

"It's a challenge in Hawaii; we don't have the infrastructure we would elsewhere," said the rabbi. Kosher wines, and hundreds of pounds of kosher meats and other food were ordered from mainland suppliers not only for the Wednesday banquet, but to meet the requirement of feeding guests for seven nights.

The hour-long ceremony is loaded with scriptural symbolism.

Guests will arrive to find bride and groom sitting in ornate chairs like thrones, and they'll be free to schmooze with them. But only men may approach him, and she will only talk to the women. When they take their seats, the crowd will be segregated, women and men in separate sections, and that will continue through the banquet and the dancing.

Rivky Krasnjansky said friends will bring special prayer requests to her -- requests already came at a bridal shower this week -- and she will pray for them during the ceremony under the chupah.

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Rabbi Itchel Krasnjansky of Chabad of Hawaii and his wife, Pearl, are planning a traditional Jewish wedding for daughter Rivky and her groom, Avremel Chazanow, on Wednesday.

Avremel Chazanow is memorizing a revered rabbi's discourse on marriage which he will proclaim to the male visitors -- and the women, if they can hear it from their side of the room.

When they finally meet face to face under the canopy, one of the first things he will do is to cover her face with a thick veil.

"The veiling goes back to the story of Jacob, who was fooled into marrying Leah, who was brought to him veiled," said Rabbi Krasnjansky. "So it's important that he sees her face."

The veil is symbolic of the virtues of modesty and chastity. Speaking of modesty, the bridal gown is high-necked and long-sleeved according to tradition.

The groom will wear a white robe, called a "kittel," usually worn on Yom Kippur, the solemn Day of Atonement. It is symbolic of purity and holiness.

The canopy is open on four sides "based on the first Jewish person, Abraham, who opened his home to travelers and had doors on all sides to welcome people from all directions," said the rabbi.

"It's as old as Judaism itself," he said. The wedding is held outside -- lots of prayers about weather going on this week -- reflecting God's promise to Abraham that his descendants would be as numerous as the stars.

"The time under the chupah is a special spiritual moment," said the rabbi. The pair will pray quietly, then the ceremony led by Rabbi Shlomo Segal of Brooklyn, head of the Chabad International rabbinical court, will proceed with a reading of the marriage contract.

"Biblically, a legal contract must be solidified with something of value," said the mother of the bride.

Giving an unadorned band to the bride is in the requirements; a flashier engagement ring presented at the same time is optional.

There's no writing your own poetic marriage vows in this tradition. The contract text is more than 1,000 years old. It contains language that assures that the woman will be provided for with dignity, which Pearl Krasnjansky points out was an enlightened view for a historical time when women in other cultures were treated like possessions.

The number seven is significant in Jewish traditions, rooted in the story of creation in which God rested on the seventh day. In the wedding, the bride will circle the canopy seven times. Guest speakers will recite seven blessings, acknowledging God for creating mankind, the bride and groom and joy, and expressing hope that they grow in their love.

The ceremony ends with the groom stomping on a wineglass, crushing it, a symbol of the destruction of the temple in Jerusalem more than 2,000 years ago. "Even though this is a joyous moment, the joy is not complete because the temple has been destroyed and will not be complete until the temple is rebuilt and the Messiah comes," said the rabbi.

"When I think about the ceremony under the chupah, I get the feeling that God is there, how awesome it is," said Rivky Krasnjansky.

She met Chazanow when he came here as a student rabbi last year. He returned to New York, where he has another year of rabbinical school. They were reunited when she spent the summer in New York, and got engaged in August. They will return there, but first they have to stick around for the seven days of feasting with guests.

The groom is the son of Rabbi Baruch Chazanow of the Chabad branch in Manalapan, N.J., and his wife, Tova.

"It's important to marry someone with the same goals and values, who feels the same way about raising a family," she said. "Not only is he Jewish, but from the same group that I grew up in. We both want to do community and outreach work, and I hope we will come back to Hawaii someday."

Rabbi Krasnjansky said: "The third partner in a marriage is God. He is the foundation between the bride and the groom. With God as part of one's life, it is the foundation of a person's identity. In that way, God is an intimate partner.

"In our world view, it is a joy for all of the house of Israel when another home has been created. In Jewish tradition we are all one family."

Nov 27, 2007

Jewish wedding Postage


Attention to detail is never to be underestimated. Even postage stamps can be Jewishweddingfied.

Characters that are present at Jewish Simchas

A blogger who goes by the title of 'Blog in D Minor' has a series of character sketches of people that he came across while playing music at various Jewish simchas.

Peeps from Da Hood - The NY Simcha Scene
Here are short sketches of some of the characters we've run across recently who populate the NYC simcha scene.

1) The Carlebach Purist
2) The rude Yeshiva Bachur
3) The drunk Yeshiva Bachur
4) The spaced-out bandleader
5) The pompous Rosh Yeshiva
6) The dance Nazi

1) The Carlebach Purist is the person who comes over to criticize the band for playing/singing a Carlebach tune differently than Shlomo did....
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6) The dance Nazi is the woman who has requests for line dances no one else in the room knows, and who wants them played at much faster than normal tempi. She has a huge repertoire of "hits" from the early to mid-nineties that she wants to dance to, and there's no way she's going to let the musical needs of the party prevent her from getting all of them.
Read more here...

More Characters:

like the....

"Business Card Lady"

"Business Card lady is a piece of work. A shadchan, she's having a conversation with a potential client right in front of us. She soon realizes she'll need to take some information down. Her first question to us, "Do you have a card?", is immediately followed up with "Do you have a pen?" Classy. Get your scrap paper elsewhere, lady!

And the ..."Mr. Bluetooth"

"Mr. Bluetooth" defines his self importance by the fact that he has... you'll never believe this... a wireless earpiece for his cell phone. He carries himself proudly, making sure all can notice his awesome accessory. Um, hello! It's like, a wedding. Of someone you presumably care about. You can take your Bluetooth earpiece out, you know. It won't hurt, promise. No guarantees about not suffering withdrawal though.

As this idea caught on, his readers send in some additional characters and the list of characters that populate the Jewish simcha scene is probably bigger than your average Jewish simchah.

Here is the complete list of 'Peeps':

http://blogindm.blogspot.com/search/label/Peeps

---There's a similar list in the Bangitout blog.---
It's called "Top 10 People Needed to Make a Successful Jewish Wedding."
This list was also greatly expanded upon by reader comments.

10. Super Shtikman: We all know about the average shtik of plastic hats and glittery bowties, but this person comes out in the full body gorilla suit or the bekesha, payos, and streimel.

9.The Slimer: When joining the circle, you sometimes join hands with this man. He makes sure to coat your hand (or shoulder) in a layer of sweat. (CAUTION: Do not participate in fast circle dancing when in contact with Slimer. The dancing speed will overcome his slippery hold and you will be flung out of the circle falling on your face).

8. The Progressive: This relative of the chassan/kallah brings all male and female family members into the inner circle to dance, to the dismay of some frummer folk.

7. The Hoarder: This person (preferably an older married female) immediately lays claim to the table's centerpiece and puts two benchers away before the meal has started.

6. The Faster: This person has refrained from eating for over twenty four hours in anticipation of gorging himself at the shmorg (NOTE: There is no limit to the number of fasters. Usually 50% of the guests fill this position).

5. The Drummer: This person adds musical depth to the chassan's tisch by treating the table as a drum. His virtuoso talent makes use of his hands, elbows, and even shoulder in doing the appropriate table-drum solo.

4. The YoYa-ologist: This person has taken dancing YoYa to the next level. Instead of the standard holding hands and kicking legs in a big circle, he jumps in the middle with his own patented version that uses a mix of jumping jacks, spinning around, and large claps over the head and
below the legs.

3. The Entertainer: This person leads the entertainment of the chassan and kallah. His break dancing far outweighs your leg flailing with two other friends

2. Waterboy: This person supplies the chassan/kallah with water. The proper procedure is to have a full glass of water so half of it can spill on the floor before reaching the chassan/kallah.

1. .Random Walker Down the Aisle: This person was late to the chupah and the only way he could get to a seat is to sneak down the aisle trying not to look like he is part of the procession, but drawing plenty of attention anyway.


Custom Jewish Wedding Cake Toppers



custom made wedding cake toppers

Not all Jewish couples are into wedding cakes, but if you are here are some custom themed wedding cake toppers - some of them with a Jewish theme - that you may or may not find interesting.

An Yemenite Jewish dance troupe


A video performance from an Yemenite Jewish dance troupe. A colorful display of Jewish cultural variety. May be you can get them to perform at your Jewish wedding. That would be an incredible wedding shtick.

Yemeni Jews singing and dancing: A performance of the Yemenite Troupe
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Here is a "simple" translation of the Yemeni Dialect part--I need help with the Hebrew part (some words are translated based on the way the performers pronounce them, which is in some parts "questionable").

Note: the words in parentheses are added for clarification:

Down (the hill or mountain) I went
To the stream
To water my horse--
My foot slipped
And I fell into the water.

I went to propose (engagement)
But they rejected me,
(and) my "qat" (a stimulant)
And the "mada3ah" (water-pipe)
Although I'm the son of a Chief
The son of a Jew.

I went to propose
Carrying my qat and the mada3ah
But the bad guys
Made a fool of me.

Sweet heart and the apple of my eye
Tell those who made you
Think bad of me:
Who of you would entertain me?

From the early dawn
She got angry with me
And went cry--
Got angry--oh darkness (of the night)

Out of sight is my beloved.
For a year and two months,
Never returned.
Alas people
She left
And deserted me.

To whom shall I complain,
And would understand me?
Before whom shall I cry,
And would pity me?
And who of you
Would entertain me.

Rabbi Mordy Katz


Rabbi Mordy Katz performing at a wedding in Melbourne Australia.

Painting of a Jewish Simcha


This painting is titled 'Weselie Zhidovsky' or Jewish Simcha by a Polish female artist.

Smoking Wedding

There's rarely a time for a smoke at a typical Orthodox. This couple however found time.

(From Bangitout.com)

Kwarx under the Chuppah

From Decanter.com:

'Unbreakable' glass launched

May 23, 2006
kwarx Felicity Carter

An 'unbreakable' wine glass made of a new material called Kwarx has been launched at Vinexpo in Hong Kong.

The makers claim it is the most important revolution in glass since automated lead crystal production. Philippe Durand, Chairman of ARC International, the company which developed the process, would only say 'Kwarx is a new material' but jealously guarded the actual formula.

Kwarx glass is made to a secret formula and is supposed to retain lustre and transparency as well as being unbreakable....

Before attempting to break a wine glass under the chuppah, make sure it's not made of Kwarx!


OR

If you are thinking of some good shtick for your friend's wedding? How bout an ole fashion punk'd wedding prank with this wacky new creation from our allways humor minded friends in Hong Kong: Unbreakable glass.

Made of a new material called Kwarx, this glass would make for the perfect for revenge on an ex-boyfriend or a priceless moment at a guy/girl who has been a jokester all his life. This will finally even the score.

(From http://www.bangitout.com/articles/viewarticle.php?a=1902)

Jewish Wedding Galleries on Pbase.com



Scot Kirkpatrick photographs a Jewish wedding in Bnei Brak:
http://www.pbase.com/skirkp/wedding

Another Jewish wedding gallery on Pbase.com. This wedding was in Tekoa.

Happy Couple.

The photography in this wedding gallery is truly remarkable.
http://www.pbase.com/dflynch/tekoa





Select images from Jewish Weddings from the portfolio of Sofia Roz are also on Pbase.
Her images are original and tasteful.
http://www.pbase.com/sofiaroz/wedding_portraits
and here:
http://www.pbase.com/sofiaroz/wedding_moments

Nov 26, 2007

Satmar Kabbolas Ponim...or more accurately Kabulas Punim

Here's a Satmar wedding video. A bit crowded...